There is a very good reason why we have stereotypical views of modern teenagers as lazy young adults who only desire to play video games, sleep in, hang out with their friends and spend a huge amount of time on their smartphones. The reason is that much of it is quite true. This is what parents see their teens doing.
In fact, the image of the lazy teenager is so embedded in our minds that people think it is a natural consequence of adolescence. And while such thinking is completely understandable, it is also misguided.
Long before video games, shopping malls and high schools, teenagers were expected to put in a full day of hard work, just as adults did. Teens did work hard and took on the responsibility of cooking, cleaning the house and helping out on the farm. Of course, they did this because the chances of going to college and becoming something you want was quite slim.
Things have sure changed a lot.
But despite these changes, teens are still the same. The only thing that has changed is in the context of what teenagers are expected to do. While very few teens completely lack motivation, most of them lack the motivation to do things that aren't important to them. C2 Education, your ACT prep service in Severna Park, offers ways in which you can motivate your teenager.
Tell your teen if you see a difference between expectations and achievements. You may have set a pretty high bar and when your teen fails to reach it, you become disappointed. However, your teen may feel that even though goals weren’t reached, progress was made and the effort was there.
Think about the things in your teen’s life that motivates them. Perhaps it’s their vehicle or a sport they play or the music they listen to. Ask them questions that prompt them to think about ways in which they can transfer that motivation across to places where they lack motivation; like studying for example.
Instead of feeling disappointed at your teen's shortcomings, highlight their strengths. Tell them how proud they make you when they pay attention to detail when washing their car or putting on their makeup or how they have the natural skills of a skateboarder.
There is a lot of pressure being a teenager, this is something you may have forgotten. Reduce the emotional overload of being a teen by asking how you can best support them and help them relieve the pressure.
When your teenager is struggling to stay focused, remind them that you were once in their shoes with very similar problems. Then break things down into manageable steps and work together to succeed.
Praise not only the small improvements you see in your teen, but the effort put forth as well. Let them know you value what they are doing and reward them when they reach goals.
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